Comments on: My Messy Road to Not Drinking

By: CIS103JacquelineBE

CIS103JacquelineBE — Wed, 02 Apr 2025 03:28:31 +0000

Thank you for sharing your determination and journey, it was inspiring. The whole “messy, mess, mess”, I get that. The year of trials, of conversations from within that says, I’m ok with it, I’m not okay with it, I’ll table it for now or I really need to stop, you are so right, I feel you when you talked about how much space that took up in your brain, in your life. I quit smoking 6 yrs ago and every day, I am so thankful. Like you, I revisit my smoker self, and the more times we talk, I realize how much I hated smoking long before I quit. I stand with you in that middle bucket, with grace.

By: Happy

Happy — Thu, 27 Mar 2025 19:23:20 +0000

I loved reading this, and wanted to say I related to most everything the writer shared. Drinking took up too much of my mental energy. I was tired of wrestling with myself every day about it. I sought support of a coach, and it was incredibly helpful. I highly recommend getting support or just having a call with a coach just to see what it’s like My coach was Dani at https://www.joinselfmade.co
I am over a year alcohol-free, and there is nothing like this feeling of clarity and freedom.

By: Candice031

Candice031 — Sat, 22 Mar 2025 18:29:57 +0000

In reply to Karina.

You only need your own permission (but you have mine as well).
Good luck!

By: PNW GRATEFUL

PNW GRATEFUL — Wed, 19 Mar 2025 02:44:43 +0000

In reply to Christie.

The post/ story was about alcohol being a diminishing force in a person’s life. And other people relating to that. The topic wasn’t about the celebration of alcohol. I’m sure they’re out there somewhere. There are often posts or comments on here about favorite beverages or whatever. This just wasn’t it. It was a different story. People shared their intimate feelings about difficult journeys. Respect.

By: Christin C

Christin C — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 21:58:10 +0000

I just read “Hallelujah Anyway” by Anne Lamott, who talks about having mercy for herself, and her sobriety journey. A quote of hers that I loved and really stuck with me is: “…she’d found that being sober delivered almost everything drinking promised.”
For me personally, I’d say being sober delivers MORE than drinking promises. As a person who used to love to drink wine, but cannot indulge anymore due to migraines, I’ve had to limit my alcohol intake significantly, typically going for months without drinking. My time spent with my kids has felt richer and more fulfilling with less alcohol, rather than the other way around. Once I got over that mind-shift of feeling like I was “missing out,”
a new indulgence revealed itself to me which became feeling everything more vibrantly. And yes, the bonus of waking up the next day feeling fresh and clear is wonderful.

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 06:44:59 +0000

In reply to Emm.

@whitney I am with you on books! I miss them so much and used to read a ton but now with kids I just can’t afford the time / mental space I’m in if I pick up something new. I find I can reread old favourites though, and audiobooks generally are safer. So weird. But yes I’m fine on alcohol. Sweets are hard though I’ve gotten better. Living with a husband and two kids makes it easier – if they aren’t « mine » I can avoid thinking about them. I quit social media last year, but I do still find myself scrolling way too long (COJ comments for example!). Sending good wishes to all in our journeys to use our time and mental energy with intention.